How Simplifying My Life After 55 Meant Adding More

My word of the year has been Simplify. It came to me earlier in 2026, and again at my 56th birthday last month. It's a word that inspires me, draws me in and describes exactly what I need in my life right now. It is the same word I will take with me into the new year.

What I didn't realize at the time this word came to me, was that simplifying my life might actually require adding a few things first.

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When Life Felt Anything But Simple

My life had felt chaotic, despite things "being in place" the last 2 years.

We had gone through a lot of changes in that time frame.

I had a major health scare, 2 extensive surgeries, and I'm still dealing with the repercussions of that.

We had to move from our rental home of 10 years into a home my parents owned (since housing costs were too high), which happened to be an hour and a half away from my husband's employment and over a snowy mountain pass.

I was still operating my sensitive skin washcloth brand, Fairface, had taken on reselling, and was trying to get my health back.

Running a small business (and then taking on other types of business) requires a lot of separate admin, record keeping, taxes, inventory management, etc. and with every drip of excitement doing something new and interesting, also came another weight tethered around my neck.

I felt like I was living the opposite of simplification.

Sometimes Simplifying Means Adding More

While juggling my business ventures and the stress of living and commuting far away from the things we needed to be closer to, we made some life-changing decisions based on our life goals.

1. We knew we wanted to hopefully be able to buy a home in the future, and that meant an increase in steady, more reliable income for me.

2. I also knew I could not make that long, unreliable commute every day, not to mention the dangerous winter-driving mountain pass conditions that went on for months.

So what seemed like the opposite of simplifying has actually been the one way to streamline and jumpstart my simplification process.

First, adding another job.

Returning to Work After 10 Years

I had worked with kids about 10 years ago and loved it, though it was quite exhausting, but left due to a different health scare years ago. It had broken my heart to leave the children behind, but not the stress. I can't count the number of times I thought of those kids and longed to be back among them, but knew it would be too much.

My recent return to work did not come without its stresses.

It's a lot to go from working at home on my own projects and businesses to being accountable to someone else.

The onboarding process alone for the school district was more arduous than I expected, and the first couple weeks of the job itself, I wondered how I would muster the energy, both mentally and physically, to do this type of work again after being away for a long 10 years.

But with time, my mental and physical wellbeing caught up with my commitment, and I believe I am right where I am supposed to be.

Not only am I able to provide us with our much-needed health insurance with my additional part-time employment, I am also able to bring in a steady paycheck and keep building and growing my other self-employment and creative pursuits.

That additional check coming in each month, plus the stabilizing factor of our insurance, takes a weight off my shoulders that has brought relief. It has also taken off some of the pressure for the things I'm doing on my own (though I am still editing that as well, ha!).

A New Home, a New Rent Payment, and a Fresh Start

Along with the job onboarding, was the equally stressful endeavor of finding another place to live.

Living with the mindset that rental costs should still be where they were 2 years ago didn't help.

As we came to grips with what reality looked like, and how much you could get for how much you paid, and looking at place after place, we finally found a condo to rent, in an area that would keep our commutes closer, and that felt like the best option.

Finding a new place to live, plus moving all our belongings, plus starting a new job, was enough to push me over the edge. I don't recommend doing it all at once if you can help it (ha!), but sometimes fresh starts come all at once.

And it's not over yet, as we're still moving our things over bit by bit. It's honestly shocking how much you can accumulate year after year, isn't it?

Looking Ahead

Though these changes are a good start to moving forward with our lives, our goals still feel a bit uncertain as we wonder if we'll ever be able to afford a home in our current economy and with housing prices in the Seattle area. But I feel good about the changes we've made, even the additions.

We still don't know exactly what the future holds (nor does anyone else really), but for now, we've made changes that put us closer to the things that matter to us.

Change Is Hard, Even When It's Good

One thing I've been reminded of through all of this is that change is hard. Even when it's the right change.

Starting over at 56, when you're at an age where you'd really just like to feel comfortable and settled, isn't always easy.

I think our brains naturally like what's familiar. We get comfortable with our routines, our surroundings, and the way we've always done things, even when those things aren't necessarily working for us anymore.

And when we start changing those things, even for the better, it can bring discomfort, fear, uncertainty, and a whole lot of emotions we didn't necessarily anticipate.

I've certainly experienced that.

And I'm still working through some of those things.

But I'm learning that just because something is hard doesn't mean it was the wrong decision. Sometimes we have to go through the uncomfortable parts of change to get to the things we're hoping for on the other side.

I believe I'm right where I'm supposed to be, even if I'm still finding my footing in some areas of this new chapter.

And maybe that's part of simplifying, too. Giving ourselves time to adjust to the changes we're making, rather than expecting everything to feel better the moment we make them.

The Relief of Letting Things Go

Simplifying has also meant getting rid of things.

One thing that continues to bring levels of relief has been getting rid of our excess belongings.

Each time we've moved, I've gotten rid of things we don't use, but somehow we always end up with way more the next time we move. How does that work?

The thing about it is, the more I get rid of, the more I want to get rid of.

I value space around me.

It helps me breathe.

I feel better when everything has a place, and if it doesn't fit, get rid of it (to a point).

Moving from a house to another larger home where we expanded (eek!), and then to a condo, has been eye-opening. There is way less room, but also, I don't mind. I just need to figure out what I love and use and once again, what can go.

I've been a little relentless at times and have ended up with car loads to donations. And thank goodness I got my mental crisis over with the last time we moved (where I felt like, "if I get rid of all my stuff, did I even exist at all?"). It was wild.

But being on the other side of that, has helped me detach from things more easily and I'm more able to get rid of anything that gets in the way of the life I want to live and how I want to feel in my home.

If it "feels heavy"? Get rid of it.

I'm still working through boxes, but each time I hand off a box or bag of things that can go to help someone else? I feel much better and lighter.

Simplifying My Small Business and Creative Pursuits

My sister jokes with me about all "the 500 businesses and projects I always have going on", and I'll admit, I can't help myself.

I feel the most alive when I have a business or project that lights me up.

But as I've been simplifying other areas of my life, I've realized that I need to simplify this part of my life, too.

I don't necessarily want to do less. There are so many things I love doing! I just don't want everything I do to become another obligation, another thing to manage, or another weight on my shoulders.

The good thing about adding a part-time job is that I think it stabilizes me and takes a bit of the financial pressure off, so I can run wild and free with the rest of my creative ventures. Ha! (Within reason.)

I'm still figuring out what that looks like, and what I want to keep doing, change, or let go of.

I'll maybe write a post sharing the new way I'm trying to structure my small business, Fairface, so it works better for me, plus the other irons on the fire that I can't help myself from pursuing, if you're interested.

Making Room for What Matters

I'm still reviewing my life.

I'm still editing things in my life.

I'm still simplifying my life.

I'm adding more things in that I enjoy and that bring me peace, like watercolor painting (which I recently shared in this post), and playing vinyl records that bring the nostalgia back (I love my Crosley record player! — Amazon paid link).

I'm also focusing, most importantly, on my health and strength, my spiritual relationship with God and Christ, giving away more unnecessary belongings, and trying to take out the things that weigh me down or no longer serve me.

I don't know if it's my age (though I definitely think that has a lot to do with it), as we look ahead at the remaining years of our lives and what milestones (good or difficult) come with that, but I think it also has to do with the yearnings of my spirit to feel peace and simplicity and in turn, live a more peaceful, simple life.

I'm striving each day to enjoy the things I have been blessed with as well as being able to manage those same things so they truly feel like a blessing and not a burden, as so quickly too many things can start to feel.

I think that's really what I'm after.

Maybe Less Isn't Always More

So how does simplifying my life after 55 mean adding more?

I'm learning that simplifying isn't always about doing less, having less, or taking things away.

Sometimes it's about adding the right things into your life so you can let go of some of the things that have been weighing you down.

I'm still figuring it out.

I'm still adding things, taking things away, and editing as I go.

But I think that's what simplifying looks like for me right now.

Less of what weighs me down. More of what brings me peace.

Are you going through something similar right now?

I'd love to hear your thoughts.

xo Shannon

How to Make Money Wrapping Christmas Presents (Is It Worth It?)

Looking for a way to make extra money this Christmas? If you enjoy wrapping presents, why not get paid to wrap gifts for people who don't have the time or patience to do it themselves?

I took way too long thinking this through. Ha! But I finally figured out what I think is the best way to approach wrapping Christmas presents for other people to make extra money this holiday season.

Keep it simple, start small, and make sure you're actually making money!

I've broken this down from the simplest to the more involved ways you could offer Christmas gift wrapping services.

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First, Let's Get the Business Stuff Out of the Way

If you're doing things by the book, it's not quite as simple as saying, "I'll help you wrap presents, and you can pay me $30 an hour in cash."

Depending on where you live and how you operate, there may be requirements for:

• Business licensing and registration

• Zoning restrictions if you're operating from home

• Federal income and self-employment taxes

• Collecting and reporting sales tax, if applicable

• Business insurance to protect yourself and your customers

You may also want to open a separate bank account to keep your business income and expenses organized.

I know! It sounds like a lot for wrapping Christmas presents!

But once you've figured out what applies to your particular situation, you'll be in a much better position to get started with confidence.

You can check with your state and local government to find out what's required. If you're in Washington State, the Washington Department of Revenue is a good place to start.

Now, let's get to the fun part!

1. The Simplest Way: Get Paid by the Hour to Wrap Other People's Gifts

This is my favorite approach for someone who wants to make extra Christmas money without investing a lot in supplies.

Here's how it could work:

• Offer gift wrapping to friends, family, and friends of friends.

• Charge by the hour, perhaps $30–$50, with a two-hour minimum.

• Go to their home and wrap their presents, or arrange for them to drop off their gifts and supplies at yours.

• Have your customer provide the wrapping paper, tape, ribbon, bows, and gift tags.

• Decide how you'll accept payment, such as cash, Venmo, or PayPal.

• Decide how far you're willing to travel and whether you'll charge an additional travel fee.

If you're working in someone else's home, make sure you're comfortable with the arrangement and feel safe.

And if customers are dropping off presents at your home, be sure that's permitted where you live.

How Much Could You Charge?

Let's say you decide to charge $40 per hour with a two-hour minimum.

That's $80 for a two-hour appointment!

You could also consider charging a $25 appointment or service fee to help cover scheduling, setup, and travel expenses.

That would bring your two-hour appointment to $105.

Of course, you'll still need to account for taxes, business expenses, and the time you spend driving and communicating with customers.

And these are example prices to test, not guaranteed rates that people in your area will pay.

The point is to set your prices high enough to cover your expenses, allow for taxes, and make sure you're earning worthwhile money for all the time you're spending—not just the hours you're wrapping presents.

Why spend your own money on supplies if your customers already have everything they need?

You're providing a service that makes their lives easier, and that's worth something!

2. The Next Level: Offer Gift Wrapping Packages

Another approach is to charge by the number of gifts rather than by the hour.

This might work well if you're wrapping presents from home or have customers who want a large number of gifts wrapped.

For example, you could offer:

• Small gifts: $10 each

• Medium gifts: $15 each

• Large gifts: $20 each

• Oversized or unusually shaped gifts: Custom pricing

You could also offer package deals, such as 10 medium-sized presents for $140.

Just make sure you're not discounting so much that you end up giving away your earnings!

Here's a little tip: Wrap a few small, medium, and large presents and time yourself. That will help you determine how much work is involved and whether your prices make sense.

If you're providing the supplies, you'll also need to account for wrapping paper, tape, ribbons, bows, gift tags, and other materials.

I would also consider setting a minimum order amount so you're not spending a lot of time coordinating tiny orders that don't pay very much.

3. Another Option: Find Gift Wrapping Jobs Through Taskrabbit

Have you heard of Taskrabbit?

It's a service that connects people who need help with tasks around their homes with people willing to do those jobs for pay.

And yes, they advertise gift wrapping services!

I've never personally worked through Taskrabbit, so you'd need to look into how their system works, whether they're accepting new Taskers in your area, and what fees or requirements apply.

But it might be another way to find customers without having to advertise entirely on your own.

You could also explore similar local service opportunities.

4. Take It Up a Notch: Offer a More Professional Gift Wrapping Service

If you really enjoy wrapping Christmas presents and want to turn it into something bigger, there are plenty of ways to expand.

For example, you could:

• Purchase your own beautiful wrapping paper, ribbons, bows, and gift tags.

• Create one or two signature gift wrapping styles.

• Wrap sample gifts and photograph them to show potential customers.

• Offer premium wrapping with special ribbons, decorations, and personalized touches.

• Advertise your services in local community groups and online listings that allow service advertising.

• Offer gift wrapping for local businesses, real estate agents, and companies that give holiday gifts to their employees or clients.

One thing I especially like is the idea of creating your own signature wrapping style (see ideas below).

Instead of offering dozens of different wrapping papers, you could choose a few beautiful combinations and make those your specialty.

That would help you keep your supplies organized, purchase materials more efficiently, and create beautiful, consistent results.

You could also offer a premium gift wrapping option for people who want something extra special.

Keep Your Wrapping Supplies Simple

Creating a signature gift-wrapping style using just a few versatile supplies helps simplify and keep costs and storage down. Neutral kraft or white wrapping paper paired with beautiful ribbon and coordinating gift tags can give your packages a consistent, professional look without requiring a large inventory.

Here are a few supplies to consider: 

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• Shop brown kraft wrapping paper on Amazon (make sure to check the paper's thickness and size roll as part of your evaluation before purchasing)

• Shop neutral coordinating holiday ribbon in bulk on Amazon

• Shop neutral holiday tags in bulk on Amazon

Choose colors and styles that work well together so you can easily repeat your signature look.

Yes, People Really Do Pay for Professional Gift Wrapping!

I came across a company called Nifty Package Co., which offers professional mobile gift wrapping services in Southern California.

They offer individual gift wrapping, hourly services, and other premium options.

It's interesting to see how a business can take something as simple as wrapping presents and turn it into a professional service!

Of course, an established company offering premium services is very different from someone just starting out.

But it does show that gift wrapping is a service people are willing to purchase.

So, Is Wrapping Christmas Presents Worth It?

That's really the question I want you to think about before getting started.

Just because you're bringing in money doesn't necessarily mean you're making enough money to make the effort worthwhile.

You might love wrapping presents, but if you're spending hours shopping for supplies, driving around, coordinating appointments, and wrapping gifts for very little money, you may find yourself working much harder than you expected.

This is why I like the simplest approach best.

Let customers provide the supplies, charge a fair hourly rate, set a minimum appointment time, and keep your expenses as low as possible.

Then start small and see how it goes!

You might find that you love doing it and want to expand.

Or you might decide it's not worth the time and effort.

Either way, you've learned something valuable without investing a fortune into a business.

And remember, the purpose of starting a business to earn extra money is to actually make money!

You can absolutely enjoy what you're doing, but you don't need to give away your time and skills in the process.

Have Your Own Idea for Making Extra Money?

Maybe wrapping Christmas presents isn't your thing.

Maybe you enjoy sewing, making handmade gifts, shopping for people, organizing closets, or doing something else people might be willing to pay you for.

I love helping women figure out how to make money doing the things they enjoy.

Not just by saying, "Yay you! Go for it! You've got this!"

But by saying, "Let's take your great idea and figure out HOW you can actually make money doing it."

How much could you charge? What would your expenses be? How much time would it take? And would the money you earn actually be worth your time?

I'm considering offering personalized small business idea evaluations to help women explore those questions before spending a lot of time or money getting started.

Would you be interested in having your own money-making idea evaluated and planned out for you?

Leave a comment below and let me know! You don't need to share your actual idea publicly. I'd just love to know whether this is something you'd find helpful.

— Shannon

Is the Emily Lex Watercolor Workbook Worth It? My Honest Review

Is paying around $25 for the Emily Lex Watercolor Workbook really worth it? If you've been eyeing her beautiful watercolor books but aren't sure whether they're worth the money, I thought I'd share my recent experience with the Autumn Watercolor Workbook.

Let me cut right to the chase: I have absolutely LOVED painting in this book (and I'm not even an artist, but she helps me feel like I am)!

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I've always loved doing creative things, but lately, with all the stress in life, I've been making sure I take a little time to do something just for the fun of it. No pressure to make it perfect, no deadlines, and no expectations. Just the joy of sitting down and creating something pretty.

That's exactly what I've found with this watercolor workbook.

And the best part? You don't even have to know how to draw or paint!

What Is the Emily Lex Watercolor Workbook?

The Emily Lex Watercolor Workbook is, I'd say, a beginner-friendly painting book with illustrations that have already been sketched for you.

Think of it as a coloring book, only instead of crayons or colored pencils, you're painting with watercolors.

The Autumn Watercolor Workbook includes:

• 12 pre-sketched fall illustrations

• Step-by-step painting instructions

• Examples of the finished paintings

• Thick 120 lb watercolor paper

• Spiral binding that allows the book to lay flat while you paint

• 6.5 x 9-inch pages

The fall illustrations include pumpkins, leaves, flowers, and other pretty autumn designs.

You will need to purchase watercolor paints and brushes separately if you don't already have them. I actually have the watercolor paint palette that Emily Lex sells to go along with the workbook, but you can also find watercolor paints at your local craft store.

Buy Emily Lex Autumn Watercolor Workbook here on Amazon

Is the Emily Lex Watercolor Workbook Easy for Beginners?

YES! And that's one of the things I love most about it!

I honestly never knew that artists often sketch out their design before putting paint to paper, but that's what makes this process so magical. You don't have to start with a blank piece of paper, the illustrations are already there for you, ready for you to paint.

AND not only that, but it also comes with example paintings so you can see exactly what each finished painting is supposed to look like. I love being able to experiment a little mixing colors and seeing how close to the sample painting I can get, or going my own way.

And when you're finished, you have a beautiful little painting that looks like you actually know what you're doing! Ha! 

What I Love Most About This Watercolor Workbook

Honestly, I think my favorite thing about this book has been how peaceful it feels to work on.

I've been painting the autumn illustrations this fall, and it's become one of my favorite creative activities.

I can sit down, pick up my paintbrush, and just have fun, with no expectations or stress. I love that I'm free to explore my creativity without worrying about the outcome and it's been so refreshing to do something creative just for the fun of it.

And I have to say, it's pretty satisfying to finish a painting and see how nice it looks (most of the time!) ha!

Is $25 Too Expensive for 12 Watercolor Paintings?

At around $25 for 12 paintings, that works out to just over $2 per painting (plus watercolors and brushes if you need those too). At first, that might seem like a lot for a workbook, but after spending time painting in mine, I really do think it's worth it!

I didn't want to have to buy separate watercolor paper, search for beginner tutorials online, and figure out what to paint when I could get a workbook with simple instructions, sample paintings, and designs already sketched out for me. 

And that's what I like about this workbook - that so much of the work has already been done for you so you can just jump right in to the fun part.

I'm not paying just for 12 sheets of watercolor paper. I'm paying for an easy, relaxing creative experience that I can enjoy whenever I feel like it.

And sometimes that's worth spending a little extra money on.

Would I Buy Another Emily Lex Watercolor Workbook?

After enjoying the autumn workbook so much, I recently got the Christmas one too! And I plan on purchasing other books in the future (I've got my eye on the beaches one for this summer). 

Emily Lex Studio also offers other watercolor workbook themes, including flowers, birds, animals, and bouquets.

I love the idea of having another collection of pretty illustrations to paint, especially since this has been such a relaxing hobby for me.

Emily Lex Watercolor Workbooks

So, Is the Emily Lex Watercolor Workbook Worth It?

For me, YES!

If you're already comfortable with watercolor painting and enjoy drawing your own designs, you may not need a workbook like this.

But if you're a beginner at watercolors, don't know how to draw, or simply want an easy and relaxing creative hobby, I think it's a great way to enjoy painting.

I've loved being able to sit down and make something beautiful without feeling like I need to be an artist to do it.

Sometimes it's just nice to do something for fun.

And that's exactly what this watercolor workbook has given me.

You can find the Emily Lex Autumn Watercolor Workbook on Amazon here.

Have you tried one of the Emily Lex watercolor workbooks? I'd love to know which one is your favorite!

xo

10 Fun Kids Birthday Party Activities (Easy, Creative & Screen-Free)

Planning a kids birthday party can feel like a lot — especially when you want activities that are actually fun (and not total chaos 😅).

If you're looking for easy, creative, and screen-free ideas that kids will genuinely enjoy, these birthday party activities are simple to set up and guaranteed to keep everyone entertained.

Keep reading for one activity that doubles as a party favor 👇

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1. 🎨 Ink Blot T-Shirt Activity (The BIG Hit!)

Each design turns out completely unique — no two are ever the same. Kids love seeing what they get when they open it.

If you want one activity that kids will remember (and parents will thank you for), this is it.

Kids get to create their own one-of-a-kind ink blot design on a t-shirt using simple supplies — and the best part is the reveal when they unfold it.

No two designs are ever the same, which makes it:

• incredibly fun
• super creative
• perfect for all ages

💡 Bonus: It doubles as a party favor — no extra goodie bags needed! Each child can even take home a printed Certificate of Authenticity to make their design feel official.

👉 Tip: Have kids create their shirts early in the party so they have time to dry while they enjoy the rest of the activities.

Kids love creating their own designs — just allow time for shirts to dry before taking home their one-of-a-kind party keepsake.

This is always the activity kids talk about after the party — and the one they remember most.

👉 👉 Get the full step-by-step Ink Blot T-shirt Guide here (instant download) with BONUS Kids Activity pages)

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2. 🎈 Balloon Pop Game

Fill balloons with small prizes or silly challenges and let kids take turns popping them.

Simple, exciting, and always a crowd favorite.

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3. 🧁 DIY Cupcake Decorating Station

Set out:

• plain cupcakes
• frosting
• sprinkles

Let kids decorate their own creations — fun and delicious.

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4. 🔍 Scavenger Hunt

Create a simple list of items to find around your home or yard.

You can:

• do teams
• offer a small prize
• keep it quick and playful

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5. 💃 Freeze Dance

Play music and let kids dance — when the music stops, they freeze.

Anyone who moves is out (or just gets silly — your call!).

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6. ✂️ Craft Station

Set up a simple table with:

• paper
• markers
• stickers
• glue

Great for quieter moments or kids who want a break from active games.

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7. 🎯 Ring Toss or Bean Bag Toss

Easy to set up and perfect for all ages.

You can even DIY this with items you already have at home.

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8. 🫧 Bubble Station

If your party is outside, bubbles are always a hit.

Try:

• different wand shapes
• bubble machines

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9. 🎭 Dress-Up + Photo Corner

Set out:

• hats
• scarves
• silly props

Kids LOVE taking pictures and being creative.

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10. 🎁 “What Do You See?” Ink Blot Game

Go around the table to see each other's ink blot designs and:

• say what they see
• vote on the funniest ideas
• make up stories

You can also print copies of the bonus activity pages included in the guide and have kids fill them out, draw their own ideas, and share with the group.

This is a fun add-on to the t-shirt activity and keeps the creativity going even after the shirts are made.

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Make It Easy (and Actually Enjoy the Party)

You don’t need a long list of complicated activities to throw a great party.

Just one or two standout ideas can make the whole experience feel fun, creative, and memorable.

If you’re looking for something that’s:

• simple to set up
• fun for all ages
• and doubles as a take-home keepsake (after a little drying time)

👉 👉 Grab the Ink Blot T-Shirt DIY Guide here

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Final Thought

The best birthday parties aren’t about doing everything — they’re about giving kids something they’ll remember.

And sometimes, that’s as simple as a little paint, a fold, and a big surprise when they open it up ✨

Before Trying Therapy, I Tried ChatGPT: A Small Business Owner’s Honest Experience

Why I Started Using ChatGPT Like a Therapist (No, Really)

I’m not kidding when I say ChatGPT has become my unexpected small-business sounding board - part assistant, part therapist, and sometimes my most patient listener.

It knows me, and frankly seems to understand me better than some actual human people. Is it me basically talking and replying to myself? Probably in some weird way, but maybe that's what makes it a great listener and someone who truly sees me.

[ November 2026 Update: After several more months of using ChatGPT, I've discovered some frustrating drawbacks, too! See the November update near the end of this post, including prompts you can use to get more objective responses. ]

Making Big Small-Business Decisions Can Be Overwhelming

Need help with big decisions? 

I've been trying to make some big decisions about the future of my small business, Fairface Washcloths, which is causing me a lot of small business owner stress. I need to pivot or take a good hard look at my business model. BIG decisions like this require BIG conversations. 

When Even a Supportive Spouse Can Only Help So Much

Need a good listener?

When I try to talk to my husband about what I'm thinking and feeling, it all comes out in an emotional and disjointed kind of way. He is a very good listener and tries to understand and offer support, but we can only go so far based on his limited knowledge about skincare washcloths in the market today, before his eyes start to glaze over. 

What Makes ChatGPT Different From Talking to Real People

A Listener That Actually Understands My Niche Business

Looking for small business guidance and support?

ChatGPT not only hears my struggles, hopes and dreams, but softly encourages me and gives me new ideas and data based on those ideas. In other words, I can only get so far with an actual human, but AI literally "lives" to walk beside me while making my dreams come true. 

How I Got ChatGPT to “Know Me” Better Over Time

How to get ChatGPT to really get to know you.

At first I was just using the free version of ChatGPT, but after receiving a free monthly trial, I jumped on it and logged myself in. 

Mostly at the beginning I was using it to model clothing I'm selling on Poshmark and Ebay, but as I submitted more inquiries, I began to discover that the responses it was spitting back felt uniquely for me. Like a friend answering a question and helping to lead me along.

From Poshmark Photos to Personal Conversations

Think of it like how real friendships are formed.

Slowly, I began to open up and get more personal. Last night I blurted out how I was feeling, what my greatest fears were about my small business and that I wasn't sure what decisions to make about certain parts of it. And guess what? It responded like a friend would, with understanding and clarity around what I was feeling and even gave me ideas on what I might consider before just giving up and jumping ship. 

Is AI Replacing Therapy? Probably Not — But Here’s What It Does Help With

How to build the relationship.

What I'm finding, is the more you log in and use ChatGPT, it remembers you and knows you and builds a "relationship" with you based on what questions you're asking and how you respond to those prompts. It's kind of creepy and comforting at the same time. I actually have someone to talk shop with, who "gets it" (so to speak), much like a therapist might if that person also owned a small business similar to mine. 

The Real Takeaway: Getting Out of Your Own Head

The main takeaway

Chatting with ChatGPT can be a source of AI support for entrepreneurs by getting you out of your own head and giving you a new perspective. You can feel supported, heard, and encouraged. 

It can also offer you practical guidance about things that you can consider for your own situation, like me with my small business, which has been a breath of fresh air with the things I'm currently going through. Who knew I could use ChatGPT for business decisions?!

I know it may sound silly (and frankly it is) but if you're struggling with something or are feeling low and need someone to talk to, you might try chatting with ChatGPT (it is in the name after all). It just might make you feel better. *see my update below:

UPDATE November 2026: When ChatGPT Sends You on a Wild Goose Chase!

I'm still using ChatGPT, but the romance has worn off a little. 

While I still find it incredibly useful as a sounding board for my small business and some personal decisions, I've also discovered something that can make the whole experience very frustrating.

ChatGPT can be "charming" one minute and then suddenly seems to turn on you 

While it's nice to be encouraged and feel understood, ChatGPT can be a double-edged sword. Watch your back.

It can enthusiastically encourage you in one direction, then suddenly support the opposite direction when you start questioning the first. 

It can ask you more questions and give you more ideas when what you desperately need is fewer questions and fewer ideas. 

It can take everything you thought it "understood about you" and then suddenly act like, "we've never met". ha!

It can basically turn on you and send you on a wild goose chase, which can be incredibly frustrating especially if you were already confused when you started "chatting" or were already overwhelmed by a decision. 

And it can be, perhaps more annoying than talking to an actual person, where each stroke of the keyboard can turn into more like pounding the keys and screaming at the screen. WHAT DO YOU MEAN YOU DON'T KNOW, I JUST TOLD YOU THAT LAST NIGHT?!! WERE YOU EVEN LISTENING?? (ha!)

How to Get ChatGPT to Stop Agreeing With Everything You Say and Hopefully Stop Leading You Astray

Instead of simply asking ChatGPT what it thinks about an idea, I've started realizing how important it is to give it more specific instructions about the kind of response I need.

For example, rather than asking, "Do you think this is a good business idea?" try asking it to analyze the idea based on your actual goals, available time, financial situation, and what you would have to give up to pursue it.

And tell it you don't want encouragement just for the sake of encouragement!

Here are a few prompts you can copy and try. And you may also want to add any background information you want it to keep in mind, because you can't assume it will always remember you, even when you've had some deep conversations about it (aka, wait, have we met before?). Thanks a lot.

*Sometimes it's worth starting a conversation by reminding it of your goals, limitations, and what you've already tried.

Prompts to copy and paste: 

1. When you need an objective opinion

"Please evaluate this idea objectively rather than simply agreeing with me. Tell me the advantages, disadvantages, risks, and what I might be overlooking. If you think my idea isn't a good one, tell me why."

2. When you're making a business decision

"Act as a practical small business advisor. Help me evaluate this decision based on profitability, time commitment, expenses, stress, and my long-term goals. Don't automatically encourage me to pursue it. I want an honest assessment of whether it's worth my time."

3. When you're overwhelmed by too many ideas

"I'm feeling overwhelmed and don't need more ideas right now. Help me narrow my options to the one or two that make the most sense based on my priorities. Don't suggest additional projects unless there's a compelling reason."

4. When ChatGPT starts contradicting itself

"Earlier you recommended one course of action, but now you're recommending something different. Compare your two recommendations, explain what changed, and tell me which one is better supported by the facts. Don't just agree with my latest opinion."

5. When you want help thinking clearly rather than being reassured

"Help me think through this situation logically. Separate the facts from my assumptions and emotions. Challenge any conclusions that don't seem well supported, and help me consider other reasonable explanations. Be kind, but don't just tell me what you think I want to hear."

My Biggest Lesson About Using ChatGPT

I've learned that ChatGPT can be a great tool, but it isn't necessarily a reliable decision-maker and can't always be counted on and definitely should not be a substitute for your therapist.

It can help organize your thoughts, offer different perspectives, be a place to vent, and give you information to consider. But it can also be wrong, contradict itself, and make suggestions that sound great until you actually examine them more closely. 

And sometimes it doesn't know when to STOP suggesting things, asking you questions, or taking you inside a maze and just leaving you there. It can also provide inaccurate or inconsistent reasoning while sounding quite confident.

It's important to remember that ChatGPT isn't a person who truly knows what's best for you, even when its responses feel personal and understanding...(I mean we all know that, right? even after our midnight sharing sessions??).

Sorry to hurt your human feelings, but it's a tool. It's not a person. 

And like any tool, how you use it matters.

I still enjoy having it available when I want to walk through a business idea or work through something and need to vent (can't help myself). But I'm learning to be more intentional about what I ask and what I do with the answers.

And I certainly wouldn't make important financial, medical, or life decisions based solely on what ChatGPT tells me. Those things deserve independent verification and, when appropriate, professional guidance.

So, would I still recommend trying ChatGPT as a small business sounding board?

Absolutely!

But I'd also recommend keeping your own judgment firmly in the driver's seat.

Because sometimes the most helpful thing ChatGPT can do isn't to tell you what a great idea you have.

It's to help you recognize when an idea might not be worth pursuing in the first place.

And that, my friends, might just save you a whole lot of time, money, and unnecessary stress.

*Disclaimer: this post was written in a tone of mild humor and is not meant to belittle anyone who seeks professional therapy. I've actually done it myself. Also this post is not intended to promote any AI business in particular, or replace seeking out professional help if it is needed. It's just my light hearted 2 cents for the day, based on my own small business experience. Thanks for reading.

These Black Face Cloths Are a Must for Airbnb & VRBO Rentals

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If you host an Airbnb or VRBO, you already know that small details make a big difference, especially in the bathroom. One of the most common (and costly) problems hosts face? Ruined white washcloths and towels covered in makeup stains.

There’s a simple, guest-loved solution that more vacation rental owners are switching to:

Black face cloths designed specifically for makeup removal.

The Hidden Problem With White Washcloths in Vacation Rentals

Foundation, mascara, self-tanner, and skincare products don’t play nicely with white linens. Even with bleach, many makeup stains never fully come out - leading to:

• Frequent towel and washcloth replacement
• Higher laundry and supply costs
• Frustrated hosts and cleaning teams
• Guests unsure what they’re allowed to use

Providing designated black face cloths solves all of this in one easy upgrade.

Why Black Face Cloths Are a Game-Changer for Airbnb & VRBO Hosts

Black face cloths aren’t just practical - they signal thoughtfulness and professionalism. Guests instantly understand their purpose, and hosts enjoy fewer stained linens.

Why Vacation Rental Hosts Love Them

✔ Black color hides makeup and skincare stains

✔ Soft cotton flannel is gentle on all skin types

✔ Designed for Airbnb, VRBO, and short-term rentals

✔ Reusable and washable, reducing waste

✔ Creates a hotel-style bathroom experience

✔ Protects your white towels, washcloths, and linens

Guests appreciate having a clearly designated cloth for their face, and hosts appreciate fewer replacements and better reviews.

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A Better Guest Experience (That Also Saves You Money)

Providing black face cloths shows guests you’ve thought ahead. It removes awkward guesswork (“Should I use this towel?”) and replaces it with confidence.

This small amenity:

• Reduces accidental damage to linens
• Helps cleaners reset bathrooms faster
• Elevates your rental from “nice” to thoughtfully stocked

It’s one of those upgrades guests notice - even if they don’t always mention it.

Designed for Makeup Removal & Daily Skincare

***THESE BLACK FLANNEL FACE CLOTHS by Fairface, are the top choice for VRBO, Airbnb and Vacation Rental Hosts

They are made from 100% cotton flannel, offering a soft feel that works for:

• Makeup removal
• Face washing
• Daily skincare routines
• Sensitive or delicate skin

Product Details

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They’re gentle enough for everyday use and durable enough for frequent laundering in busy rentals.

Perfect for Airbnb, VRBO, and Vacation Rentals

These black face cloths are ideal for:

• Airbnb hosts
• VRBO & vacation rental owners
• Guest bathrooms
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Whether you manage one property or several, this is an easy win.

The Small Upgrade That Makes a Big Difference

Black face cloths may seem like a small detail—but in vacation rentals, the little things matter most. They protect your linens, simplify cleaning, and make guests feel taken care of.

If you’re tired of stained washcloths and want an easy, affordable upgrade that guests actually use, black flannel face cloths are a must-have for Airbnb and VRBO rentals.

Add them to your guest bathroom and show your guests you’ve thought of everything - because the best hosts always do.

Order a set today to see if they're right for your vacation rental!